Note: I have begun compiling my blogs into a book. I will be releasing segments of chapters of the book here first and ask for your feedback and input to make this project better. Today I insert the introduction of my book: “Why it is Time to Man Up” which I dedicate to you, my reader, in search of becoming a better human being.
“Much has been said and written in recent years about the challenges of men and boys. A sampling of book titles, for example, includes Why There Are No Good Men Left, The Demise of Guys, The End of Men, Why Boys Fail, and Manning Up. …
In too many Hollywood films, TV and cable shows, and even commercials, men are portrayed as incompetent, immature, or self-absorbed. This cultural emasculation of males is having a damaging effect.
by Pete Ferguson
At the age of 14 I lost one of my greatest examples of manliness. Hundreds flocked to the funeral of my maternal grandfather, Oleen E. Adams. Thousands more had been touched by the service of this great man.
While suffering the emotional blows of being told he had terminal pancreatic cancer, my grandfather got together with two of his other dying friends and they formed a service pact to help others so long as their bodies were able.
One onlooker described the humbling, but physically humorous mess of three decrepit and withering old men trying to clean the yard of a neighbor widow. But they would not allow death’s shadow to overpower their ability to “go and do something today.”
For Oleen, there was no pity in dying. He was true to his last breath, always thinking of others and uplifting those who had originally come to console him.
During the final moments of his life, with his children gathered together and his youngest son barely making it back from a business trip in South America, it was clear my grandfather had cheated death long enough. He was in severe pain, and at this point it was evident that he was not going to recover and that his body had nothing left to give his permeating spirit.
Each of his children said their goodbyes and as ordained Elders in our Church, his sons gave him a priesthood blessing in which they promised him his spirit would be felt by his family and grandchildren and that he would be present at important family events and then released his spirit to God under the guidance of the Holy Spirit. His body finally ceased to function within hours, but his spirit has lived on strongly in my life and the life of my siblings and cousins.
My grandmother has often told me that one of her greatest blessings is that since his death she has never felt alone. Each person who was touched by Oleen continues to reap the goodwill he freely imparted in memories and using his life as an example for their own.
Oleen is a great man. His body left him, but his spirit and example do live on and continues to inspire, uplift, and move me to want to be a better man.
The world is in need of more real men – men of character, humility, and stalwart hearts. Men who stand for what they believe in and who are proud of their differences, yet constantly work to improve their deficiencies. ~ Christofferson
Men of action who constantly serve and refute the temptation to indent a chair in front of a television are needed now more than ever.
I invite you to join me in the quest and discovery to become one of these men.
- Why it is Time to Man (or Woman) Up! (learnactshare)
- Will the Real Men Please Stand Up? (blackamericauncensored.wordpress.com)
- Making Your Dent in the Universe (learnactshare)