Refiner’s Fire

You only learn who and what you are when you are living in the unfamiliar. ~ Josh Herman (Beauty & the Geek 2)

Pete Ferguson

Without adversity, a tree would not grow to towering heights, a butterfly would never develop its beauty, a pile of rock could never be forged into steel.

So it is with human beings, the more adversity we survive and seek out, the stronger our will and determination will be forged in life’s fires.

You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.

~Walt Disney

Growing up you likely heard many times phrases such as “life wasn’t meant to be easy,” or “suck it up, you will survive.” At the time these sayings were delivered, you likely did not appreciate the “words of wisdom.”

But time can heal all wounds – or rather the maturity and perspective we gain over time help us see adversity in a different light.

When it is dark enough, you can see the stars. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

I recently have spoken with two separate friends, each of whom when through a divorce not of their choosing. Both of whom were confronted by the infidelities of their wife and told the marriage they had been working so hard on was to be dissolved.

I walked with them through their trials, the hurt, the pain, the seeming despair. But with time, each has risen out of the ashes a stronger person with greater resolve to make their relationships with family and friends an even stronger bond.

Out of the refiner’s fire can come a glorious deliverance, there will be a reawakening of dormant, inner resources, self-pity will vanish as our blessings are counted.

~ James E. Faust (paraphrased)

Within my marriage, it is the trials that have defined our bond and caused the most growth. As I look at the relationship with each of my children, the trials are what matter, because in the trials are where true commitment and love are tested.

You may be thrilled that 2012 is over. You may have the most difficult year yet ahead.

What I am learning in life is that great people are forged in the great fire of life and continuously seek to be out of their comfort zone. As I work on my goals, I’m always reaching just beyond where I think I am able to withstand the heat. And each time I am amazed as I look back and realize that I survived, I learned something new, and I grew as a human being.

If you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere. ~Frank A. Clark

Coaches are essential as they push us to a new level they know we are capable of – but we do not feel we can achieve. They provide a path to success and quickly tailor their approach if we are about to give up or need more encouragement.

Coaches come in the form of parents, teachers, friends, therapists, personal trainers, athletic coaches, mentors, and within our family.

Are you seeking out adversity? Or like I did for many years, are you looking to hide in the shadows but then complaining about the cold?

January is heading for its halfway mark, where are you in achieving your resolutions – or have you chosen to forego resolutions this year because of previous failures?

 Behold, I have refined thee, but not with silver; I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction. ~ Isaiah 48:10



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