Love is not a commodity which can be bought and sold. It is the culmination of many small actions over an extended period of time. This holiday season, the gift of caring and love for others will be a lot more lasting than anything money can buy.
After completing a good workout this weekend, I went to sit in the sauna, where I intruded upon a young couple’s conversation.
She was discussing one of her friends who does not seem to reciprocate friendship and the young man said: “I don’t know why you keep her around as a friend but I guess if we break up she can be there for you.”
I had to repress my sarcastic New Jersey response to his callous stupidity – what I wanted to say was, “Hey Romeo! – Hallmark just called and they want that line for their upcoming Valentine’s Day cards.”
What he was basically saying is that it is nice to live with you, have you available physically and emotionally, but let’s both have a plan B “in case it doesn’t work out.”
In a world of throwaway phones (have you had the same one more than three years?), throwaway computers (more than 5 years?), and throwaway Tupperware – I guess it stands to reason that many people accept that they will have multiple serious relationships and marriages.
Which puts love on the line as a “noun.” When you just don’t love anyone anymore, it is fine to cut your losses and move forward in search of “Love.”
In contrast, last Sunday we sat behind a couple in their 70s. He tenderly had his arm around his wife, she was leaning into him.
Later that night as we discussed it, my wife Steph said to me she decided that she would like to grow old with me.
I laughed and teased her about waiting from 1993 when we met in college until this year to come to that conclusion – but she explained she doesn’t like to think much about getting older, and it will be nice to have me around.
Love is a verb. It’s an action requiring your involvement and your active participation. You cannot sit back and expect the world will serve it to you. You cannot expect that your relationship will continue to provide love while you’re not putting in any effort. Love has to be earned and must be continually fought for. ~ Sherri, SereneJourney.com
Love is action, it requires motion. Continuous motion. It’s like eating – just because you ate enough for four people yesterday doesn’t mean you won’t be hungry some time today.
The Holidays are a stressful time. Be sure you are putting the people you love most – first. All the stuff promoted this time of the year is just stuff. The relationships you have are what matters most.
Happy Thanksgiving week!